84 -year -old diabetic caregiver

Hello, my name is Berna, I am 53 years old and I am new here.I have been taking care of my father for two and a half months, a diabetic for about 10 years.In mid -June he had a stroke (the second, the first one did not notice, apparently, but came out in the scanner) and the neurologist told us that he had uncontrolled sugar, and not that day, but for months.

To summarize, he was not doing any diet (and we found among his papers a hypocaloric diet of 1,500 calories), he limited himself to eating five times a day, to measure the glucose in the morning and take his medication.

When we went to take the hospital discharge to his header, he gave us a sheet with a hypocaloric diet of 1,500 calories.Next, we left my brother and I to buy a kitchen scale.And since then we have the controlled diet.

My mother has mental problems without diagnosing (she doesn't want to, but that is another story), so I have been installed in my parents' house (I am autonomous and work at home) during the week (my brother lives with them, butHe works outside the home) and returning to my house on weekends.I live at 80 km.From Madrid (my parents live in the city), I am divorced and my 26 -year -old son has been independent for a long time, so I have been lucky enough to take care of my parents.

At this time I have learned a lot about diabetes (next week I will approach the Association of Diabetics of Madrid to become a partner) thanks to a couple of friends who have DB type I;In fact, one of them told me the other day that I am just as obsessed as him with the CH :) I will also approach the social services of the City Council to ask about the help of the agency, rather than for the help itself (I do not know if it will correspond to us, because there are people in much more difficult situations), so that my parents are aware that they have ceased to be independent.And that we, your children, need help.

In short, the situation is complicated by several long background problems (cultural, as the two are of Chinese origin, although they have been in Spain for a long time; personality traits), and neither of them assumes their situation.My father is unable to learn what the CBs are, when we go out to eat, he tells me that I ask for food and the exercise (he recovered very well from the stroke) is like talking to him in Chinese;) (He has never liked to move,So changing those behavior patterns at your age is little less than useless, and see that we have insisted, the doctors included, that muscle mass is only recovered by moving, and that the hostesses are taken away by exercising).And I am scared, overwhelmed and tired.

Well, as a presentation is already too long and I don't want to bore you.If there is someone else here to be in a similar situation, I would love to contact and exchange impressions (and tricks!).

A hug and thanks to those who have organized this forum and to all who are around here :).

Berna

Hello, Bern.

I think your father's biggest problem is not diabetes, but his age and character.It is difficult to help them when they are not left.Have you tried to aim at any day center?There they are well served and carry out activities that keep them active.They move, relate and, incidentally, leave you a quiet time.Then they return home more relaxed, tired and better humor.

Otherwise, patience.

Health and welcome.

Hello, Alea :).I know that my father's main problem is the character: D, and that after the stroke has changed and is more affectionate :).

The day center discarded, at least for the moment.The social isolation in which my parents live is not now, but almost always.I would say that it is a part of the cultural problem.In fact, with age and ailments, they are increasingly expressed worse in Spanish.And then there is the character of both, which tends to isolate them.They are very his, come on, and if I will know :).The same with the help of the City Council of the City Council, I can convince them, but I do not want to have too many expectations.My mother sleeps all day and at night makes some sudoku (which leaves halfway) or looks Google in Chinese ... and my father plays the lonely on the computer or read/hey/look at the news obsessively.And they barely talk to each other.

Said with all love and respect, they would need both therapy, but because they are very, that is impossible :( the chicken that my mother mounted when we tried between my father and I convince her that her normal-normal dismemberment was not... And my father "neurologist" sounded like "Loquero" (until we explained the difference between neurologist and psychiatrist), so I don't tell you anything ...

For something I left home at age 19: d.

Anyway, yes, that I try to have all the patience of the world and not let frustration and impatience (which jump from time to time) tape love :)

A hug and thanks for answering,

B

Much encouragement.
I am also "entertaining" with my mother, so I understand you.

Health